Friend of Lily is a phrase coined by Full Marriage Equality and represents “Someone who is in an adult, consensual, incestuous relationship or has experienced such a relationship,” or preferably stated, “Someone who is consanguinamorous or has experienced consanguinamory or consanguineous relationships or sex.” It is akin to the phrase Friend of Dorothy. It stems from Diane Rinella's novel, Love’s Forbidden Flower, and the main character of Lily Beckett.

The flower design and color meanings are by Cristina, and are also inspired by Lily Beckett of Loves Forbidden Flower

Red - Representing the blood that binds us together in this rare opportunity of double love.

Green - Has an emotional correspondence with safety. as in the safety of being with family. It also represents endurance, as our relationships must endure so much discrimination and hate from those people that cannot or will not understand.

Purple - Representing the mystery and magic of our relationships. It is a very rare color in nature. As rare as our relationships. We are the rare few in this world who were presented with this opportunity of "double love" and we are rarer still as we are the few who had the courage to seize this most rare opportunity.

Black - Representing the mystery our relationships are shrouded in due to the oppressive laws we must live and love under.

The flower itself representing the Friends of Lily. and a nod to "The Forbidden Flower Series" books written by Diane Rinella.

The circle around the flower representing the circle of the family, lover, best friend, and soul mate. The circle is our relationships come full circle.


Sealed with blood, a love that's doubled

A red-hot bond, but lovers troubled

A garden of lilies, a crimson flower

A stalk of purple, of royals and power

Leaves of green, for assurance enduring

Mysterious rarity, attraction alluring

Courage to challenge taboos on affection

The forbidden reinforced by prejudiced rejection

Hidden and shrouded in shadows of black

Pain and pleasure, withstanding attack

Lovers entwined with soulmate sensations

Family and friends, more intense in relations